Sunday, April 1, 2018
During the night of the blue moon, a snowstorm whitewashed every vertical and horizontal surface if not by the first fallen nine inches than by the whip of the wind which followed them. From before dawn until the darkness of Easter’s eve the woods surrounding my home was transformed. Despite today being April Fool’s Day, I would pin that label upon anyone banking that March would exit as a lamb. Nope, March came in like a lion and sauntered out with the furious toss of a whitened mane.
I wanted to write cleverly of any variety of topics such as womankind’s angst or my passion for my business pursuits. I wanted to pen metaphorical faith journeys. I wanted to spin tales of lush fantasies. But all these topics began only to find their path cut short after four hundred words in each of their directions. None of them were correct.
Now why is there not an Easter eve? I do realize the eve of Easter is properly termed ‘Vigil’ but I still wonder why.
I came to the ‘table’ of Easter Eve, my mind refocused in the past weeks upon tasks, goals and all sorts of to-do lists. Throughout Holy Week I plodded along, cleaning, working, and shopping. I attended services to practice my faith as well as observing Passover in homage to my Jewish heritage. But change was nagging at the back recesses of my brain. Change and a few other random topics along with memories simmered continuously. Odd timing, I had thought to myself. In the past week I had solved a business concern which I had needed to solve for three years. Odd timing. And I kept plodding along.
Spring in the woods
The Saturday of Easter weekend found me with time to myself. I had tried on the dress I planned to wear only to find that despite pounds lost it still did not fit properly. A wonderful A-line vintage-looking knee length gray satin dress skimmed my body nicely with a sheer silver overlay printed with magnolias. I wasn’t terribly upset as for the first time I could get a glimpse of myself wearing it. In the mirror I saw the impact of the feminine cut of an A-line silhouette.
I shrugged. I would wear a white cardigan sweater worn with buttons to the back with a bold navy, white and sky blue print pencil skirt. The late season snow almost dictated a shelving of any summer or even spring time dress. Nope. This is Wisconsin. I needed sleeves.
As the eve of Easter continued, I was saddened by a family matter. Tensions and pre-holidays potentially ignite embers of any relationship but if that ember is fueled by an extended family and divorce, well one must always tend to keep it all a friendly fire. It was a situation reminiscent of Easters past.
I was hurt. I had chosen to place myself in a position to be vulnerable in an old pattern because I had thought it best. Except this time I did not fight back. This time I spoke once more then said nothing further. These people, I thought to myself, should say “I am sorry.” These people, as I remained as stone, should know how they hurt me. These people did not.
I walked away. Something ended although I knew not what. Something ended. I drove to get coffee. Throughout the night I cried, I created my springtime lights and eventually I returned home. I slept, soothed by the light of a full blue moon upon the whitewashed woods.
There is nothing quite so reassuring as Easter morning before the dawn. It was official. Easter had arrived. Nothing stopped Easter.
I felt better but wondered exactly why. With plenty of time to prepare for services, but not enough to be time-lazy, I decided the morning was perfect. The Saturday snows, although a powerful symbol of a lamb’s purity and the not so subtle nature of G~d, still caused some pragmatic concerns. Cold. Brr. It was four degrees. But it was Easter. Showering, I had reconsidered my Easter outfit. I would wear my robin egg blue dress which I had worn to past Easter services.
I bounced down the steps to the cedar closet which holds my seasonal clothes as well as those I no longer wear daily. I remembered that I had wished for the desire to wear pink. I had mooned and mooned about not having a man for which to wear pink. (I know…) It has been some years since I remembered this point and equally many years since I wrote about it.
I remembered Dave. Dave was a man I knew many years ago and never did I know him romantically. He was one of those people in a persons life – in my life – whom one holds as dear. Time would pass. I would not see him but when we would, we could talk and laugh and remind ourselves to tease one another a bit. And if I am correct, his eyes would twinkle as the stars would in bewilderment to wonder why not us two?
But it was not so. He was one of those people who you knew would wish you the best and tell you the truth and tackle life with hard working ethics and with enough sass to make it all interesting. As a woman, I always thought that he was the type of man for which I would wear pink. (For many years the idea of wearing pink totally disgusted me..)
Dave died several years ago of lung cancer which metastasized in his brain.
Me, the brick dandelion, at the Matthias Building.
On this Easter morning I remembered him again as I had in the past weeks. I know many who have died and there is no memorial great enough to them, for what they have meant to me.
I opened the cedar closet door to blankets, velvet dresses and the cornucopia of styles which I have collected through the years. My fingers lingered, paging through my wardrobe pieces like a fabric diary. The robin egg blue dress with a lace overlay upon which I had focused, hung next to the perfect confection of a dress. Long sleeves. A heavier weighted knit with texture and a fitted silhouette.
And it was pink. It was pink in a sugary blend of almost Chantilly and almost pearl. (I had purchased it years ago, wearing it once during the Christmas season).
I smiled as I grabbed the beige leather heels and found the spring clutch to match. I do have a reason to wear pink, in the memory of a man whose kindness graced my life then and reminded me now. I remembered the value of that kindness. And I smiled as I thought of wearing pink in tribute to the day.
I chose to wear pink. Pink. Me. On Easter.
And I smiled.
Love. Lots of Love. Happy Easter.